This time I chose prompt #2: "A list of things you no longer have in common with your married/child bearing friends…and why you love them anyways."
First of all, I hate to complain, but I just can't use the word anyways in a sentence. I want to make it clear that I don't blame Mama Kat. Who was the first person to decide a perfectly good word like anyway needed an 's' tacked onto the end? I'm sure it's a regional thing. I can say "y'all" 'til the cows come home, but anyways isn't a word that has ever come out of my mouth and its very presence made it difficult for me to choose this prompt.
I forced myself to overlook my issues with that word so I could tell you that the older you get, the fewer differences you find with your married "mom" friends. I'm not going to call them childbearing, because this side of 50 they'd be freaks of nature if they were still spittin' out babies on a regular basis. (I know that sounds like an anatomically impossible thing to do, but now that I've already used "y'all" in this post, "spittin'" seemed like the only appropriate word.)
At this point, while a few still have one or two kids at home, most of my mom friends have kids who are at least college-aged. They have discovered that they can do things they could never do before, like meet for dinner without having to schedule it months in advance, only to cancel and reschedule two or three times. And when you get together, the conversation is totally different. When their kids were younger, they would tell hysterical stories about the kids that were always fun to hear, but there wasn't much else to talk about. Now, while I still love to hear what their kids are up to, they've learned that they can talk about a wide range of other topics, too. Because they have time to think outside of the bathroom for the first time in decades, most of them start to rediscover themselves which is a joy to watch. And they're not tired all the time, so they don't start looking at you with a glazed expression 5 minutes after they sit down to dinner.
Honestly, most of the differences that were still so apparent just 5 years ago have faded away. There is, however, one major difference that has only become evident over the last couple of years. We're part of that Heli/Velcro parent generation. You've heard about them, I'm sure. These are the parents who have a hard time letting go and do thing like
For the record, it's not. My cell phone lives in my purse, pretty much around the clock. Once in awhile, it comes out when I need it for a phone call. It's more likely to come out because it needs to be charged. Once it's on the charger, there's a fairly good chance it will make it back into my purse, but occasionally it spends the whole day on the charger, while I - imagine this, if you can - leave the house without a phone. As long as my phone holds out, I won't upgrade it because it will force me onto a more expensive plan and I'm already paying for way more than I use. Honestly, the only reason I have a cell phone is for emergencies, and free long distance.
Not only do my mom friends not understand that I don't walk around with my phone in my hand 24/7, they think I text. I don't know why they would think this, since most have never received a text from me at all, and those who have, have only received random texts with words completely spelled out and sentences correctly punctuated. Is that the behavior of a person who texts? No, I don't think so.
So they'll call me on my cell phone, and if they're lucky, I have it on me, it's fully charged, and I can get to it. Then I'm greeted with, "Did you get my text?"
"Huh? Text? What?"
"Did you get the text I sent last night?"
"You mean when I was home and you could have picked up the phone and called me if you had something to say to me?"
"Well, it was just easier to send a text."
Okay, people, is it really easier if I'm not going to see it until you call me 12 hours later to tell me you sent it?
Alright, take a deep breath. This, too, shall pass, and when it does, all the differences will be gone. That or I'm going to have to break down and drink the texting Koolaid.
Don't get me wrong. I do love my mom friends anyway
Until next time,
"Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another - and all the more as you see the Day approaching." ~ Hebrews 10:25